Wedding days tend to be focused a lot on the bride. Most often the bride is the one who does the most work, picking the colors, hunting for vendors, picking the invitations, flowers, all of the tasks that come with the planning of a wedding. But does that make it her day?
It’s very easy to get swept up in the notions of customary roles and focuses, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t, or shouldn’t look beyond that. A wedding is not something you do alone, you do not go to the chapel to marry yourself. Without another person to stand center stage, it’s just a party like any other. Some partners, may take a back seat on planning, leaving the majority of the decisions up to their future spouse, and that is fine, it may not be something the abdicating partner is good at. But when the day arrives, it’s as much about them as well.
Both parties are committing their lives to one another, and both should have the option to have their say about things that are important to them. This applies if it’s a wedding between a bride and groom, two grooms, or two brides. The planning partner needs to step back and ask themselves, am I being fair to my partner? Am I being selfish in my wants?
Planning for a wedding, can be a test for any couple. It can be a time when we show our future spouse who we are under pressure, or when things don’t go the way we want them to. So be patient, be considerate, and remember, you are in this together, from this moment onward, you need to be able to lean on each other for support, love, and grace.